Did you know that most women only apply for a promotion if they meet close to 100% of the criteria? Men will apply for the same promotion even if they only meet 50% of the criteria. Women tend to stop themselves before they have a chance to succeed. I know I have.
I’ve stopped myself from doing so many things in my life. For instance, when I was a designer, I would hold myself back by overthinking a design. I would tell myself that a concept wasn’t creative enough, it wasn’t forward-thinking, and it wasn’t saleable. Eventually, those words turned into, “I’m not creative enough.” Stopping myself from taking a risk aided in creating a downward spiral for me. That is the power of stopping yourself before you even have a chance to succeed. I’m sharing with you five ways to stop overthinking and start acting on your goals before you’re ready. Trust me, you want to read this.
Write it down
Write your goal on a sticky note and place it somewhere you will see it every day. Doing this one, simple step will increase your chances of achieving your goal by 42%. Write your motivation on another sticky note and place it next to your goal. It's important to make sure your motivation is greater than your goal. Your motivation is going to drive you when you feel underprepared, unqualified, and out of energy.
Break it apart
Working towards something new is exciting, scary, and overwhelming. Take a step back and break apart your goal:
- What steps do you need to take to achieve your goals?
- Which steps are you looking forward to taking?
- Which steps are going to be the most challenging?
Breaking down your goal will help you organize your thoughts, feelings, and actions. I find it helpful to write in my journal or work with my coach during this step. Talking through your goal will inevitably bring clarity! These achievable milestones will produce mini victories that keep you going in the right direction. You will reach your goal faster by taking small steps.
Acknowledge the fact that you must do things you don’t want to do so you can achieve your goal. You have two options when you get to a point of resistance: you either turn around or you create a plan to get through. In full transparency, it’s also probably why you haven’t achieved this goal in the past. It requires a level of discomfort and a conscious effort to achieve your goals.
Replace "should" and "shouldn’t" with "want" or "don’t want". Swapping these words will shift your mindset or help clarify what you really want. Here are some examples:
Instead of these...
- “I should start exercising because that's what I'm supposed to do.”
- “I should apply for that promotion because it's the next logical step for my career.”
- "I shouldn't spend money on taking a vacation."
- “I want to exercise more because I want to take care of myself.”
- “I want to apply for that promotion because it will bring more opportunities my way."
- "I don't want to spend money on a vacation because I'm saving up for a new car."
You can talk yourself in circles all day. Sometimes, you need to dive in and just do it. It’s better to start something from where you are than to not start at all.
The truth is you might never feel ready to start working on a goal. There will always be an excuse for why you can't take that next big step in your life. You have to want your goal badly enough. The question is, do you?
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